If you are raising a child whose nervous system experiences loss of autonomy or inequity as danger, the goal of parenting changes. The focus shifts away from "How do I get my child to..." and towards "How can I help my child feel safe?"

I want to invite you into a very specific parenting experience. This is a child who can feel intense, highly reactive, and easily knocked off kilter. They may interrupt, refuse to do things, control others’ behavior, argue about fairness, or seem defiant. This child may have a nervous system that experiences the world as more threatening than most. Let's talk about what that means.

Why does the show "All Her Fault" have everyone talking? It's the painfully accurate portrayal of default parenting. It's the visible manifestation of invisible labor. It's watching your lived reality play out on screen and thinking, "Oh. So it's not just me."